Over the years, I have seen many cases when two good people who like each other come together to create something awfully mediocre or even dysfunctional.
Whenever two persons co-create anything – ranging from a relationship, home or even ‘raising a kid’…to a project, team or even an organization, the most important thing is to have ‘One Common Vision’!
Well! While it is perfectly justified or natural for them to envision it differently when they ‘start conceiving it’, they have to discuss, challenge, persuade, convince, reconsider, reformulate, and do whatever it takes but ought to come up with one common vision before they ‘start doing it’.
Moreover, in the process, they have to also ensure that the vision should not be a hybrid one which was toned down to a level where it became so average that none of them could disagree with it. So, the challenge is two-fold – both have to synergize, not compromise!
And then, from the moment they start doing it, it should be ‘our’ and not ‘my’ or ‘your’. Yes! They need to own even the foster parts of the vision.
It is immensely important, because there is nothing more disastrous in life than to have two persons working together on shaping something with ‘no, little, vague, separate or fluctuating’ ideas about it.