The returned gift

When you gift something to people, don’t give them what you would like to give…give them what they would like to get.                    


I discretely remember that evening when many of us got together to celebrate birthday of an elderly relative. We all had given the occasion our own interpretation, and thus there was decoration, music, cake, gifts etc. In fact, it turned out to be quite a get-together.

The old man also looked pretty pleased. And amid all the activity, every now and then, he would begin talking about something from the past, only to be interrupted by more activity or some new topic. It happened repeatedly, though no one seemed to register it.

Finally, somewhere late in the evening, as the party took its own momentum independent of the occasion, he excused himself and went to his room.


Well! That evening, as I saw him sitting alone in his room, cleaning his glasses, I was wondering how none of us could understand that…to be happy, he did not need gifts…

…All he needed was to know that…‘we all also remembered what he still remembered’.

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. ( He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
This entry was posted in A Person's Musings, A Trainer's Diary, An Entrepreneur's Journey. Bookmark the permalink.