‘Same’ Pinch!

“No two siblings are ever born in the same family”.                    


The other day, I was talking to someone who was comparing two siblings and was talking about how different they have turned out to be. She then ended the point with a typical “…and that too when they are from the same family and parents”

Well! I didn’t say to her but the fact is…“no two siblings are ever born in the same family’.

For namesake, it may be called the same, yet for each one of them, the family is different in every sense – be it composition, coherence or circumstances. Moreover, the parents are also different in every possible sense – their expectancy, attention, anxiety, maturity, priorities, temperament and even the equation they share with each other.

And more than anything else, the absence or presence of one while the other was growing up plays a hugely important role. For better or worse, this factor looms large in terms of the impact it has on their personalities. Yes! In many ways, they grow, suffer, thrive, descend, rise, crumple ‘because of’ or ‘in spite of’ each other.

Not to forget, then there are far more prominent dynamics present at the subconscious level – the ones that one is never consciously aware of and yet has to come to terms with for the rest of one’s life…


Well! You can never compare two kids from the same family. As, their irony is that they are so same and yet…so apart!

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. (www.socialigence.net) He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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