The (Tor)mentor!

I strongly believe that…“Idealism is the first step to hypocrisy”!


A lot of people loved my last post. However, some, in spite of loving it, found it slightly less morally-correct. And one of them asked me to write something on my basic approach towards my work – which in his words is… ‘mentoring people’. So here is a piece on it…

I find most people living on ‘overdose of sentiments’. In turn, I like to call myself an existentialist. I believe in seeing things the way they are and not the way I wish them to be. And it is even more important to do so if you want to help someone change things for better; because ‘acceptance is the first step to change’.

So I don’t see people as ‘good or bad’ but as ‘good and bad’. And as far as their questions are concerned, I believe that a mentor’s job is not to answer all the questions, but to take the person to a level of understanding where some questions simply dissolve.

Well! A mentor takes your questions away, and leaves in you a ‘quest – for permanent solutions. Yes! I don’t believe in giving temporary solutions to permanent problems but to give permanent solutions to temporary problems, because when you find a temporary solution then more often than not you end up making the problem permanent.

In other words…“I don’t try to solve the problems; I try to sort the person


…And I do it not for some lofty aim to serve humanity, but to sort my own self bit by bit – possibly the most ambitious job a man can undertake. 🙂

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. ( He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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