The modest hypocrite!

“It is better to be an object of jealousy than to be an object of sympathy” 


I discretely remember that the last time I indulged in serious ‘competition or comparison’ with someone was when I was in 11th standard in school. After that, something happened (‘what happened’ is a tale for some other day), and since then, it has been an ‘inward journey’ for me. For all these years, my only concern has been ‘manifestation of what I have inside me’.

In that sense, I have been completely ‘self-centric’ for all these years…my frustrations have not been where I stand in the race but the gaps between my ‘potential’ and my ‘performance’. And my pain has not been what others are achieving but when I lack purposefulness or direction. In fact, I have never strived to be ‘the best’, as my focus has been on ‘being at my best’. And I have never tried to be like someone else, as I have only thought about being more of who I already am.

Thus, barring a few bouts of ‘complaints of getting a rough deal’, I can’t recall any extended episodes of comparison or competition. And honestly, although I still have a long way to go, by far, it has been a terrific journey – so consuming that I haven’t had an ounce of energy left to dissipate elsewhere, and so solitary, that there have been days when I’ve come back home looking like a success to world but feeling like a failure…and vice versa.

With this backdrop, I have always found it amusing when I come across people who consider me as a ‘competition’ or who compare themselves with me. But to be honest, I have retained enough of the rascal inside me to then say to myself the opening-line of this blog-post…


Well! You might be wondering why I am brazenly blowing my own trumpet in this post. Well! Friedrich Nietzsche had once famously said that “To not speak about oneself at all is the most refined form of hypocrisy”. So, I thought let me make a valiant effort to prove that I am not one. 🙂

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. ( He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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