Dhan te nan…!

“When things are going rough at your end, everyone else suddenly starts looking happier than he or she actually is.”                 


Most of the sad people don’t even realize when their sadness gets intermingled with their ego to form a third ‘bitter yet addictive’ emotion. I call this emotion ‘enjoyable victimization’! Yes, there is an exclusive masochistic charm in feeling that ‘The whole world is against you’/ ‘It’s God’s conspiracy to make you suffer’/ ‘You are the chosen one by destiny to always hand its most raw deal’.

And what adds a special flavor to it is the tendency to overestimate or exaggerate others’ ‘all-well’ life. Suddenly all other people start looking ‘in the pink of their health’, ‘at the top of their game’ or ‘in the honeymoon phase’ (fb only worsens what is already pretty bad 🙂 ). Add a few despondent sad-songs or ghazals to it and it becomes the perfect recipe for a phase when feeling bad actually feels good.

And then the ‘Suffering Hero’ starts the ‘Act’ – staring into space with a solitary-diner look, sighing before every second sentence, sipping even water as if it is a ‘thing with a hangover’ and walking along streets with a ‘look’ as if a background-score is playing. Well! Just the right screenplay to pump one’s insatiable desire to ‘assume disproportionate importance’!


Wake up douchebag! No one is watching this melodrama. Get back to work.

And ya…one more thing! FYI…everyone out there is grappling with a problem or two – some even bigger than you can ever imagine for the script of your self-funded & self-starring docudrama.

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. (www.socialigence.net) He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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