Was watching an old interview of Yash Chopra…He was talking about ‘Lamhe’ (my all-time-favorite movie)! He said “Lamhe was so dear to me that when it flopped, for almost six months I couldn’t do anything! After all, it was a part of me…my heart!”
In life, we all have something – a venture, a project, a deal, an exam or a relationship – to which we give our ‘everything’ and it still doesn’t work out in the end! Leaving us wondering how to deal with it…?
The problem is that…All of us are very good (actually too good for our own good) at calculating and concluding! We live our life almost like ‘stock-market update’…keeping a daily log of our movement…declaring ourselves a success or a failure almost every evening or weekend! That leaves us seeming like a ‘commodity’, traded on the perception-exchanges of the world!
But then…it is natural, isn’t it? Because if we don’t have benchmarks then how would we evaluate things? After all, we are accountable to someone somewhere for everything…Well! That’s where my difference-of-opinion is…
I do agree that all of us are answerable to the world for our deeds, but if the world has all the right to evaluate us by our results (the destination) we should still reserve the right to evaluate ourselves also in terms of our effort (the journey)! So, it is important to accept the world’s definition of failure and get affected temporarily by it, yet not letting it permanently change your definition of success!
A testimony to it is…when in the end, Yash Chopra said with a smile “It is my favorite movie, my most cherished experience, as I came really stronger out of it…Because, the fact that it failed cannot change another truth…‘that I had given my BEST to it!’”
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
