Why some relationships work, and some don’t!

You have to work on a relationship to… make it work.           

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Ideally, only two equally committed people can make a relationship work. However, in reality, at any given point of time, the commitment levels of two persons in a relationship can never be equal. It is because while they share a part of their lives with each other, there are other parts of their respective lives that they have to deal-with on their own.

Those parts cannot be shared. At best, one can talk about them or take temporary help, but at the end of the day, one has to face it alone. Now, what it means for a relationship is that one of the two will always have something else on his or her mind – some insecurities, worries, priorities, deadlines or concerns.

That’s when the other one has to play his or her part. He or she has to wait without cribbing, support without advising, care without clinging, forgive without mentioning, bear without sentimentalizing, or ‘discuss disagreements’ without ‘playing a victim’. Yes! More often than not, one of the two will find himself or herself doing this…

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…and as long as both can take turns to play this role well, the relationship works! 🙂

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. (www.socialigence.net) He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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