You have to work on a relationship to… make it work.
Ideally, only two equally committed people can make a relationship work. However, in reality, at any given point of time, the commitment levels of two persons in a relationship can never be equal. It is because while they share a part of their lives with each other, there are other parts of their respective lives that they have to deal-with on their own.
Those parts cannot be shared. At best, one can talk about them or take temporary help, but at the end of the day, one has to face it alone. Now, what it means for a relationship is that one of the two will always have something else on his or her mind – some insecurities, worries, priorities, deadlines or concerns.
That’s when the other one has to play his or her part. He or she has to wait without cribbing, support without advising, care without clinging, forgive without mentioning, bear without sentimentalizing, or ‘discuss disagreements’ without ‘playing a victim’. Yes! More often than not, one of the two will find himself or herself doing this…
…and as long as both can take turns to play this role well, the relationship works! 🙂