The fights you win by…not fighting!

There are some fights that you win by… not fighting them.     


When you are tired or are in a bad mood then you are far more vulnerable to road-rage to pick a fight over a rash overtake or a mean glance.

It was one such day, and finally a man crossing the road heedlessly got to me with a popular Hindi expletive. I felt a sudden surge of anger and wanted to retaliate with equally hurting words (like any normal boy growing up in India, I am perfectly equipped with the vocabulary). I also wanted to shout and approach ‘head on’ to teach a lesson to the guy, no matter what the consequences were.

I slowed down the car and my torso was already half out of the window, with my eyes at him. But thenI turned my back… and drove on.

It was as if, in a flash, I could recall years of hard-work, patience, maturity and sacrifice that have gone into whatever little I have built and earned. And though I know that one day I will lose all this, I surely don’t want to put it at stake in a fit of anger on a tobacco-chewing man who is drunk on cheap liquor and is too eager to pick a fight (with due respect to his reasons to do so).

I mean…it’s just notproportionate.


Well! Don’t pick fights when you have nothing to gain ormuch more to lose.

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. ( He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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