The ‘Tanhaai’ Syndrome

“Tough times should make you tough…but not…‘hardened’”!                    


At times, going through ‘hard times’ hardens you so much that you close your heart to anything that can melt it! You make it resistant towards every feeling…every emotion in the book. You take sort-of revenge from world by turning yourself into a robotic-being who is living in his watertight ‘self’– devoted to routine…focused on priorities.

You also develop a utilitarian view towards relationships. For you, everyone exists as a means to some end. This makes your smiles cold, your hugs loose and your eye-contacts short. Your laughter becomes superficial and your sobs become shallow. In short, everything about you lacks depth, intensity or wholesomeness.

Well! While such phase is required for one to get back to one’s feet after a hard knock, if it outlasts its natural duration then it becomes life-sucking. And person is reduced to an ‘on the fringe’ existence. So, never stretch such a phase after it has run its natural course…

So… “Go! Laugh, wince and cry… just don’t live it dry”!


As years ago, Rajesh Khanna sang it right…                                                                             “Jab dard nahin thaa seene mein, tab khaak mazaa thaa jeene mein” 🙂

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. ( He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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