The ‘if-then’ people

In life, mostly, your relationships are your own reflections”.                  


In this world, people who are ‘purely good’ or ‘absolutely bad’ are very few. Most of the people are what I call the ‘if-then people’. And by ‘if-then people’ I mean that if you give them reasons to be good then they become good, and if you give them reasons to be bad then they become bad.

Well! Look around in your professional or personal domain or for that matter even in your closest relationships and you would find most of them of such type. And consequently, you will also understand that in life, all associations are essentially ‘give and get’. It is simple – give what you want to get.

But now you may think that someone in your life to whom you have given all the reasons to be good and is still turning out to be bad must be from ‘absolutely bad’ category. Right?? Well! No. Let me clarify…

There is very less chance that you would have an ‘absolutely bad’ person in your life. So, if you look closely, the one who you think is turning out to be bad even when you are giving him reasons to be good is actually an ‘if-then person’. It’s just that you have either ‘not identified’ his reasons correctly, or have ‘not given’ him enough of them.


Yes! If you dig deep enough into your problems, at the root, you would find ‘You’. 🙂

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. ( He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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