The lonely ‘me’!

My own people leave me lonely at the times when I actually require them the most” is the single most frequent grief that I have heard people sharing…


Yes! It hurts, and in a way that no other wound can ever do. You feel as if the whole life-energy has got squeezed out of you. The pain lasts long, sometimes for weeks, months and even years. And even when it subsides, it leaves you a very different person – a mere shadow of the person you used to be.

But what people don’t realize is that those moments have a far greater significance. In fact, that loneliness is required; because it creates an opportunity for you to ask to yourself those ‘uncomfortable yet fundamental questions about life’ that you would never ask otherwise.

It helps you realize that in the process of creating a web of relationships around you, you lost touch with the person who matters the most – You. It helps you repair the most important relationship you often keep neglecting – that with your own self.

In those moments, you witness that, without you, after initial hiccups, people’s lives continue to go on unaffected. Thus it helps you question your choice of maintaining these variable associations at the cost of losing touch with the ‘constants’ of your life.


So, first, cry your heart out… and then utilize that loneliness to review, restructure and reviveyour life’!

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. ( He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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