To get ‘what’ you want, you have to first know what it is.
The reason why most people get disillusioned in the pursuit of success is because they have not really defined it. It remains a sketchy notion in their minds that keeps changing all the time. I do respect that definition is supposed to change at various stages of life or after a life-changing event; and it is also equally important to keep raising the benchmarks.
However, the definition cannot be short-term or short-lived. And it also cannot be based on a ‘socially constructed’ idea of what it is. It has to emerge from within you, and should be a manifestation of your values, talents and intrinsic desires. Call it ‘vision’, ‘mission’ or some other good-sounding word, the only criterion is that it should truly represent ‘you’.
After all…‘what you want’ should come from ‘who you are’. 🙂