Forgive, but do not forget.

Move on’ in life, but move on as a wiser person.


There will always be people who will hurt you – sometimes unintentionally and at other times ‘intentionally’. When they do, it is natural for you to take it to heart for a while. But as time passes, you have a choice of either ‘keeping it in heart’ or ‘letting go’.

But I think there is a third alternative. You can forgive the person and not forget the learnings. Yes! You should store the factual portion of the feeling and let the feeling gradually recede. Easier said than done, but surely worth a try!

After all, it is not the person but the act that hurt you. And don’t forget that other people in your life are also perfectly capable of repeating that act. So, update the database and let it work at the backend. Ok Ok! Before you object, I should admit that yes it is difficult to analyze your own hurt by being objective.


But then…we have to learn to do so, to achieve a higher…objective.

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. ( He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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