No more tears… :-(

One of the greatest ironies of growing-up is that…“Our many privileges take away some of our ‘very basic rights’”.

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You never grow up in the eyes of your old relatives! And on the top of it, they never shy away from reminding you that they have seen you from diapers to knickers to the pants & pajamas. And interestingly, they remember your most embarrassing moments most vividly. In my case, one of the favorites for all of them is how super-ultra-hyper sad/angry I would get in childhood whenever India would lose a cricket match (as if I was an exception!).

The other day, as some of we cousins were enjoying an unplanned get-together, the television was mutely airing a cricket match (not that of India) in the background. And while munching one of the harder nuts for him, one of our older relatives looked at me and asked…“Do you still get upset when India loses?

Well! I didn’t know why but I straightaway said “No uncle! Now, I have many more reasons to get much more upset about…” Now, on any other day, it would have sparked a laugh, but for some strange reasons, everyone had a slightly somber smile about it. And one of them also ended up saying “and still…now you can’t get upset on them!”

Well! Precisely while all of us were soaking that subtly-poignant moment in, one of the kids in the family entered the hall crying uncontrollably. When we asked what had happened, the reply was “the paper cup I was playing with, rolled down under the bed”…

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Well! Two of my favorite lines of Javed Akhtar from one of his ghazals that compares adulthood and childhood are…

Ek ye din jab laakho gham aur akaal padaa hai aansuu ka…

Ek wo din jab ek zara si baat pe nadiyaan behti thi.

…When people say that they miss their childhood, then mostly they don’t miss the ability to laugh like a kid; what they miss is… the right to cry like one. 🙂

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. (www.socialigence.net) He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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