Away from home!

She is away from home…feels depressed…mostly lives in nostalgia, denying her ‘present’ the space it deserves in her life…

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The other day, as she talked to me about how much she suffers because she misses her family, I said to her what I always wanted to. I said…

“Well! That’s not your family; it is your parents’ family!”

She looked shocked. So I elaborated…

“Yes! That’s not your family; it is your parents’ family! You are a part of it. ‘Your’ family would be the one that you would build in the times to come”.

She looked confused. So, I explained…

“Look! A seed can see itself belonging to the tree whose fruit it is a part of, or it can see itself belonging to the tree whose root lies within it. The fact is that it is ‘both’”.

I went on further…

“You feel lonely and away because you are seeing your ‘present’ in terms of your ‘past connections’. But if you would see your ‘present’ in terms of your ‘future connections’ then you would find that this period is the one of transition. And ‘transitions’ are usually lonely and uncomfortable! But, you have to see it as a preparatory period for the roles that your future holds for you – the period in which you can learn to see yourself as an ‘individual’ and develop ‘self-reliance’ which is an ‘essential’ for playing your future roles effectively”.

I could see her expressions changing…                     

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Well! Yes! It is important for one to be emotional and dutiful towards one’s past connections, yet one should not stay sentimental and ‘clinging’ to those connections. The truth is… “The only way one’s past connections can prove their strength is by… preparing one for one’s future”. 🙂 

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. (www.socialigence.net) He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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