What ‘brings people close’ and what ‘keeps them together’ is different.
As she sat clueless in front of me, she knew she should have paid heed to my suggestion.
Yes! Though it all looked perfect between them, the cracks were visible to me quite a long time back (after all, I boast of teaching social intelligence). And I had given her hint about it but she had brushed it aside by saying “Everything is fine”. ‘Fine…’ Well! To me, that’s a dreaded word when it comes to relationships, because it is an ‘emotionally neutral’ word.
And while an emotionally-neutral state is often desirable in a relationship to bring stability to it, yet when ‘cool’ becomes ‘cold’, it is often just tip of the iceberg. The fact is that the real problems in relationships are not when one is interested or uninterested in the partner, but when one is ‘disinterested’. Yes! ‘Indifference is the silent corroder of relationships’, and it hurts without hurting.
But where did it go wrong? Well! It was one single giant mistake on their part. They did not realize that as time passed, they were changing, and so were their expectations from each other. Yet, they had got stuck in each other’s perceptions formed during the initial stage of their relationship. And because they still cared for each other, they avoided confronting and gradually started bypassing each other in the name of ‘allowing each other space’.
And that ‘space’ did them in. It kept getting larger, and soon they were two islands separated by frozen waters in between.
In relationships, one should always remember that ‘wishing that things shouldn’t change’ doesn’t mean…‘they aren’t changing’.