Being alone is empowering…!

“No one thinks about you as much as you think they do”.


To most of the people out there, you are at best a fleeting thought in the mind which too comes only when either something related to you is ‘trending’ in their lives, or if something related to you incidentally pops up in their attention arena.

And even those who you think are obsessed with you – any new relationship, or an old relationship with new major developments – think about you a lot at stretch, but only in patches. They also keep toggling their attention between you and other usual or pressing matters. So effectively, total span of your intrusion in their minds is also only marginal.

So, in all… Sorry dude! Irrespective of what you think of yourself, you don’t matter that much to anyone out there…

That should be disheartening…isn’t it?

Actually…‘Not quite’!

That should rather be liberating. Yes! Because if what’s above is true then that frees you of any burden to carry! It leaves you alone, even in a seemingly crowded interconnected world of yours. And because, whether for your successes or failures, your odds of getting more chunk of someone’s mind-share don’t improve significantly, thus while staying connected, you should still focus more on…‘doing your own thing’.


After all, as great poet Harivansh Rai Bachchan said…”Aloneness is empowering”!

Akelepan kaa bal pehchaan <— Click here to listen to the lines of his poem in my voice. 🙂

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. ( He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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