That’s not who you are…

Neither your ‘best’ defines younor your ‘worst’!            


…All they help identify is your ‘range’, but not your nature. Thus, a mistake you committed, a relationship you messed up, an exam you flunked, a decision that backfired, or an opportunity you missed cannot define you. But still a lot of people tend to build their perception of themselves around that one-odd event or phase. Well! While it is okay for someone else to use them to form your image, it is a grave error to let that define your identity in your own eyes.

Yes! Peaks – whether negative or positive – are not representative. In fact they are often misleading. As a result, I often come across people who have either not forgiven themselves for something in the past or are still under a hangover of a bygone glory. They continue to drag a tomb or an emblem in their subconscious that weighs them down heavily as they walk ‘in’ present…‘towards’ future. Eventually, it affects everything about their life – the pace, the direction and the motivation.


The truth is that we could never grow out of childhood fascination for angels and demons. Thus, we either create them in stories…or yearn to spot them in others or ourselves.

Well! How about just staying humans – flawed, random and…full of contradictions. 🙂 

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. ( He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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