A promise is a promise…

One of my closest friends reminded me of my promise of ‘writing a post on romance’ (I made that silly promise at the end of my ‘entrepreneurship’ post…). He has hardly ever let me down, so how can I? So…Bhai!!!…here I go…

But there is a twist in the tale…On that topic, let me share with you all something really interesting (…to me at least). I recently stumbled upon something that I had written years ago, for a cousin, when we were in college (I still remember storing it on a floppy disk!)…

But, first you promise me that you would not laugh! Actually, I kept laughing like hell while reading it after such a long time…I couldn’t help it, as it was so amateurish and immature…right from the topic to the content, everything is so…silly… (and still so innocent!). That age is so beautiful! Isn’t it! You can philosophize and theorize all sorts of things, without the pressure to actually apply them!!!  

And I discovered at least one thing… that my writing style hasn’t changed much over the years… (…that means I am still equally pleasant or irritating as I was…)…So here it goes…


When you are entering a relationship, be careful about a few things… Prefer to avoid finding your mate at the place where you study or live… That is, don’t have your beloved (for both the genders) at your school, college or the same apartment/colony.

But this is contradictory. Isn’t it? Actually, these are the places where you are most likely to get your partner. But “obvious is not always good”. I say this for a very specific reason. What drives the success horse? I would say…focus, well-directed efforts and the maximum utilization of your resources like potential, energy, time and above all…emotions.

Bifurcate a stream of water and you will find that neither of them have the same force, speed and effectiveness. Similar is the case with our mind. You give it two thoughts to ponder upon simultaneously and the results will suffer, the quality of output will deteriorate. Concentration is the prior step to the meditation! See many things at a time and you will land up observing none of them.

Well, success demands sacrifices! Sacrifice of the temptation of having each finger in the different pies with varied flavors! Cocktails get delicious not surely but accidentally! So, why to avoid having your sweetheart at a few specific places? Well…simple! Don’t merge serious business with soft corners of heart. You are going to attain mediocrity at best in both the genres!

Well, when you have your mate with you or near you throughout the day then you are conscious! You cannot be your own natural self! You cannot enjoy work! You cannot explore your inner self. You become too dependent.  You lose excitement of the relationship and enthusiasm and eagerness of being together. Because, “pudding twice a day” makes salad tastier in a week!

And the worst and most horrible consequence… any turbulence in your relationship will affect all facets of your life. If something unfortunate happens in the relationship – a temporary tense and repulsive patch or worse, a break-up – then you are doomed! Because you keep on regressing to the past, the memories keep haunting you. You cannot concentrate on the studies, or find it hard even to be at your house.   

But then is it right to have your mate very far from you?

 No! The ideal buy is to have her/him at an approachable distance. Not too far to land up tracing, not too close to end up elbowing! …at such a distance that you can always touch each other with a stretched hand!

Manage two of them such that you have those focused, unambiguous, productive, result-oriented and dedicated-to-objective days… And then those cozy, romantic, dusky, eves afterwards!

…So that, after an exhausting day, you can hold each other’s hands, have a long walk, enjoy coffee at the seashore or can at least have a wonderful and embracing talk on the phone.

…So that, you can have a dreamy-yet-sound sleep and you are perfectly fit for the grill next morning and yes! …For another delicious eve!


Uh! I hope you had fun reading the words of a self-appointed Love-Guru (who himself was a sentimental syringe)!!! Honestly! I felt so embarrassed reading it again…But I guess, I did make a good point…and that too stylishly enough (although I missed my favorite brackets (…))!

…probably…Some things only come with time…

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. (www.socialigence.net) He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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