Why people are not there when you need them the most?

She asked “Why so happens that people are not there when I need them the most?” I said…“Because that is how it is meant to be”.


While going through a difficult phase or after it, the worst thing you can do is to become cynical… to blame people for not being there… or to ‘not forgive’ them for turning their backs on you. Because by doing so, you…‘miss the whole point’.

See it this way. A phase can qualify as a ‘difficult phase’ only when you have to face it head-on, alone, and right there ‘in your face’; with no one guarding you. After all, if there would be people protecting you then how would ‘you’ feel the heat?

Alas! Most people don’t understand this. That’s why they go through such phases and yet do not derive the value which is there for the taking. And the reason is that they direct their attention more to ‘when who behaved how’ rather than on ‘why what happened’.

What a waste!


The fact is that “your destiny delivers its most important messages in your loneliness”.

Don’t shoot the messengers. Focus on the message.

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. (www.socialigence.net) He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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