It is immensely painful when someone close doesn’t understand how you are feeling…
It is strange, isn’t it…that there are so many people in your life who don’t empathize with you in your low phase but you don’t feel that bad. And then there is someone close whose emotional-unavailability makes you feel lonely – probably because you expected that person to instinctively understand the unsaid…
Now, in order to bring that person’s attention, you begin to do all sorts of things – you either behave oddly…or stop talking…or speak indirectly…or avoid completely…or create a scene needlessly…or even go directly and plead.
Well! You eventually succeed in catching the eyeballs. But in the process, you lose your valuable self-esteem. So you start to feel even worse. Already hurt, now you are also devoid of the ‘saving grace’ that you had. As a result, you now feel weak and worthless.
And that’s when the real suffering starts.
It’s amazing how, when you are hurt, your close ones can either heal you for better or… hurt you for worse.