If something makes you happy today, then…it has already become a potential source of sorrow for tomorrow!
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This eternal truth got resurfaced again, in a recent workshop on emotion-management… Yes! It is basic nature of the mind that all its indulgences turn out to be Siamese-Twins…
If you have been happy after getting a person in your life then you would surely be miserable when the person would go away… if you have been happier after getting success then you would definitely turn out to be a grouchy loser… if your popularity makes you proud then your oblivion is going to be painful…
If a possession made you feel heavenly then its loss will feel like the end of the world… if you are proud of your intelligence then any smarter guy will make you feel inferior… if your good-health is the cause of your pleasure then any sickness is enough to pull you down in the dumps…
Well! It is not a coincidence that when dimples are your prized assets… then a pimple keeps you locked in your room!
In life, every joy comes with a guarantee of sadness… it’s just a matter of time – the warranty period!
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Best way out is to base your happiness somewhere deeper than on people & objects…
Another way is to live it all up, without wanting it to stay…
Yet another is to participate in this play as an actor, without losing your core-self…
And if your choice is ‘none of the above’, then a lesser substitute is… to remember this truth even when you don’t need to! So that…when it shall come, it’ll hurt less.
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
