The Unsaid Sorrys

It’s good to get feedback unexpectedly. Even if you don’t agree, it surely makes you think


I took a turn with as much care as a normal person takes when he is driving on a road he knows well. However, as I stopped at the next signal, a man on a bike came near me and started shouting at me. Well! First I couldn’t figure out what it was about, but then I realized that he maintained that he was behind me and I took such a sharp unexpected turn that he almost fell because of that.

He was furious, but I guess as we talked, in a few moments he also realized that if at all that had happened then it was entirely unintentional. As a result, he drove ahead without any more fuss. While I also drove ahead, I replayed all the steps in my ‘turning’ one by one in slow motion but couldn’t figure out any mistake I had made. But then, as I kept driving, I also began to think about something else…

In case that man was right, then while he chose to come and tell me about what happened, what about those who didn’t come or couldn’t come in all these years? – those on whose foot I accidentally stepped but never even realized it… those whom I shortchanged unintentionally…those whom I hurt without meaning to… those who bore my weight when I threw it around unknowingly…

But wait a moment! What about all those people who owe me a ‘sorry’ for the very same things? After all, I have also been on the receiving end.


Hmmm! I guess they are right when they say…“Life is a great leveler”.

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. ( He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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