My secret recipe for understanding people

“Sir, you have such strong understanding of people and their minds. I want to be like you!”…when someone said this the other day, I couldn’t help but smile smugly.   


‘Smugly’ because a thought came to my mind that has frequented it numerous times in last many years – “Well! They still can’t figure it out”.

To be honest, when it comes to people, I don’t have any fixed beliefs, rigid criteria or stiff opinions. The reason is that I believe they all are strong deterrents to observing and gaining wisdom. Yes! They are at best a person’s desperate futile effort to feel a certain sense of certainty in a world that has nothing fixed.

I mean, how can I claim to have a strong understanding of people? I have seen enemies giving support and friends showing disinterest like strangers. I have seen believers converting into atheists and hardcore atheists embracing faith. I have seen Idols discovering feet of clay and scoundrels upholding morals against all odds.

I have seen strong-willed people turning superstitious and superstitious people developing sudden audacity to ignore omens. I have seen grown-ups behaving childishly and children showing immense maturity. I have seen penny-wise people turning pound-foolish and short-term gainers taking a leap of faith… Yes! I have seen them all changing so quickly that I have stopped keeping track.


The truth is, when it comes to people, my only strength is… “I like to know them without ever assuming that I know them”. 🙂

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. ( He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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