“John who??? I don’t know any person with this name”… was Bipasha’s reaction to a question asking her response to John Abraham’s wedding plans with Priya Runchal…
…One of the most difficult things in life is to accept that the person, who once loved you, doesn’t love you anymore… And even more difficult thing is to accept that now that person loves someone else…!
Right through those butterflies-in-the-stomach first feelings… sentimental late-night messages…intense craving for each other… passionate trysts…and for-ever promises; one fact that can’t be denied is that in the process of being in love with someone, we subconsciously start pursuing a bid to own him/her!
…Yes! It is almost impossible to resist the temptation to possess the one you love! And ironically, the moment we start possessing people, we start to treat them as things! Then… it is difficult to stomach their individuality, their prerogative-to-choose and their right to change…
Moreover, we forget that emotions are Eternally-in-motion…transient by their very nature! So it’s only commonsensical that if people can fall in love…they can also fall out of it! Who are we to decide that they shouldn’t? ‘Storm doesn’t disappear by your closing the eyes’…Change is always impending! And if that change eventually comes, then it is hard to let go…
Let’s remember that Loyalty is a beautiful virtue as long as it is voluntary, and not imposed. And let’s also not forget that…True love liberates! …
… This gets beautifully manifested when Sanjay Dutt said about her ex Ria and Leander Paes “They look beautiful together! I am so glad that she is getting all the happiness she had always deserved..!”or Honey Irani telling her ex Javed Akhtar “While flipping album of Farhan’s marriage, I got so proud to realize that Shabana was in more photographs than I was in!”…… Well! Javed Akhtar felicitously says “Mujhe is baat ka fakr hai ki talaaq bhi hamaari dosti ka kuchh nahin bigaad sakaa!”
Yes! It’s easier said than done…but let’s try that when we say ‘my own people’…we don’t mean ‘my owned’ ones!
PS: …it’s as true in social & professional space, as in personal.
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
