The Break-up Test!

Sometimes, break-ups are the ultimate ‘Litmus test’ for a lot of things…


As she looked at the pictures of her ‘Ex’, I could see a ripple of sadness crossing her face. I rudely asked “You don’t seem to be very happy finding him happy and successful after all these years”!

She fidgeted nervously and tried to shake her head in denial, but having known me for years, she then sheepishly smiled and said “I am not unhappy, but yes, when we parted, it did seem that it would impact him irrevocably. But I am partly amazed and partly awkward to see him this way. I guess he did get over it well!

I smiled and said to her “Well! I understand how you feel. It is natural. But you know, you should be happy that the guy who had come in your life had ‘substance’, and wasn’t just a flippant romantic who didn’t have an identity beyond a relationship he was in. You should be proud of the fact that you had shared a precious part of your life and your self with a worthy and gutsy guy who held his own in spite of what happened”.

I continued… “So, you should be happy, as it proves that your decision to choose him as your beloved was right”.

Well! Her facial expression started changing for better. And precisely then, her cousin witnessing this discussion chirped “And what if the guy had sunk after the parting?

I exclaimed “Then you should be happy, as it proves that your decision to reject him as your life-partner was right!

And we all laughed instantly…


Jokes aparta broken relationship only tests the quality of people involved in it 🙂 

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. ( He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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