It is strange but “most people don’t attain ‘outer tangible success’ because of ‘inner intangible failures’”.
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A lot of people who know me professionally often ask why my approach towards my work is so sensitivity–driven. Well! Let me explain it…
Over the years, I have found that what stops people from achieving what they aspire for is seldom a piece of knowledge absent or a part of skill undeveloped…it is mostly a part of their emotional selves that is stuck.
And a major part of my work is to help people repair the damaged portion of their selves. That’s why whenever I help people even for the most academic or professional pursuits, my starting point always is ‘Who they are, and how they became who they are’, as that is what decides the fate of their journey to ‘What they want to become‘.
And I don’t fool myself into believing that I am a psychologist or a psychiatrist. I am not equipped to solve mental problems; I can only help resolve personality issues. And that too, not for enlightening them, but for helping them with what they aspire for. Yes! I can at best be a catalyst, as changing one’s mind is only and entirely in one’s own hands.
And in this pursuit, I play various roles – that of a friend, elder, assistant, mentor or even tormentor. I work as anything that works. And still, it doesn’t always work because at times the wall is too thick and my toolbox too limited. In fact there are many people much closer who I could never or won’t ever be able to help for better.
And then there are peculiar cases when a person’s strength actually comes from his flaws only. In such cases, often it is better to not interfere with what is working well for someone. Yes! We humans are unbelievably complicated and each one of us is absolutely unique. So there is no ‘one size fits all’ approach.
For instance, people with equally challenging past could turn out very different – Strong ones come out unscathed, sensible ones suffer but then take things in stride, and then there are the ones born with ‘artistic sensitivity’ who soak in so much that it gets hopelessly embedded into their sense of self.
Whatever the type, they all have something inside that limits what they do outside. And interestingly, every time I help someone, I stumble upon a part of my own emotional self stuck somewhere…
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Hmmm! Let’s see! Who knows, I may be yet another ‘overly self-involved vain’ doing all this eventually for his own sake. Or else, why would I write such a long post explaining something that nobody had asked me to. 🙂
