Sometimes, the best way to say something is…

Sometimes, it is important to choose solutions which may not look elegant, but are effective.


While the river of time had already flowed way past it, inside her mind, she was still stuck on a shore. That’s why when I met her, I could sense from moment one that she is there and still isn’t there. Such people look disintegrated. There is a clear lack of congruence between their words, gestures, expressions, tone and eye-contact. Their presence looks totally…fragmented.

It turned out that she was still possessed by ghosts of a difficult phase. She had moved away but couldn’t move on. Such people become peculiar, because while they do want to break free from the past; on the other hand, by now, they have already started secretly savoring the sympathy and self-importance of being a victim.

I listened to her uninterrupted, and then articulated this observation of mine without any dilution. And then…the ice meltedthe glass wall broke.


You know what! Sometimes the best way to say something is…to just say it.

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. ( He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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