The other day, I was in a heart-to-heart conversation with one of my near-ones (…simply conversing has become so rare these days…isn’t it?)…Of-late he has been going through a real tough time emotionally, and is feeling like a victim and a culprit at the same time (…relationships are so strange… isn’t it?)
…long after we had finished our tea (…a so-badly-made tea that it could only be forgiven by sadly-mad people…), when he was going back…the conversation ended with my saying “you need to Move On!”…to which he replied…“if it all it was so easy…!”
“Move On…”…so easier said than done! But at times, it’s the only way…
Well! To philosophize…we all have been allocated only a stipulated time on this earth and we will not live even a millisecond longer than that. Nobody knows how much time we have on our hands…So, it doesn’t make sense to waste time in proving something to somebody.
Ultimately, it is between you and God…! (…although I am not exactly a conventional theist, but I like the sound of it)! When we go up, we should be able to justify our stint with human race. So let’s look at the bigger picture and create something which will complete us!
…And for that we will have to rise above the sentimental loopholes. They will not end till the last breath… In fact the ones who we will not say ‘I love you’ before dying will feel bad that we did not give them the due importance…! So, we can only be genuine and compassionate; and hope people will acknowledge us for who we are…
Let’s forgive & forget! In fact those who we have not forgiven, keep hurting us more…because we keep on chewing the hurt and it takes a lot of our energy to keep it alive… Well! If we fall by getting hit by a table then there is no use kicking the table because it is only going to further hurt our leg…and we only will have to get it repaired. So it is better to tell the table “Okay! Pardon granted!”
A wonderful Sufi philosophy says “This too shall pass”! Absolutely true, we can’t even recall what was on our mind on the same day of the last month then why should we block ourselves with a block…
…Let’s Move beyond the actions and reactions and enter the world of creations! (…a good one! Isn’t it?)
(To be honest…if I myself had applied all that I have written above, I would have been way ahead of me today…As I said…“Move On…!”…so easier said than done! Still…Worth a try…!)
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
