Love – ‘making it’ vs. ‘being in it’!

“We think about it, joke about it, but sadly…seldom talk about it”!


As those ‘moments of passion’ passed, the shared silence following the sensual storm was suddenly broken by his chuckle…

She wondered where that came from! He looked at her and smiled. She gave her a surprised look. He imitated the look. She chuckled. He held her hand. She caressed his face. He shared what he suddenly got reminded of and made him chuckle. She listened to it intently. She also chuckled…

And in the wee hours, they simply talked – without topic…without opinions…without discussion.         

Now, before you declare me frivolous, perverted or voyeuristic, let me come to my point…

When it comes to a couple, what characterizes or strengthens their relationship is not all that they do for those ‘moments of passion’ or during them. It is about what they do after those moments have passed. Yes! What couples don’t realize is that ‘the moments that come after they are done with chasing the hormonal-high’ offer the true opportunity for real togetherness – the one beyond physicality.

And that’s what defines ‘the future’ of ‘the love’ in ‘the relationship’.


Well! You must be wondering who these ‘he’ and ‘she’ are, and how do I know them?

But you know what! It hardly matters who they are, because in any case, in those gentle moments of togetherness, they themselves lose their identities…and validate the proverbial ‘two becoming one’. 🙂

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. ( He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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