In my early teens, I used to like a girl a lot. She was my neighbor! And after Years…I recently met her on fb 🙂
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Back then, I wouldn’t miss a single opportunity to see her from my terrace, or come across her and say ‘Hi’ (I would plan the timing perfectly)! My whole family knew about it and it was the favorite subject of the light-hearted conversations. One day when one of cousins came to know, she asked me “Why don’t you tell her?”…and I instantaneously said “What is there to say? I just like her!”
In the years to come, as I evolved and eventually felt ‘love’ for someone, I realized how, even then, I was mature enough to know the difference between the two…
…Love is less of an emotion and more of a ‘connection’! A connection that goes beyond sensual or psychological, and borders on mystical and metaphysical. This connection is consistent, even in the face of fluctuations in the levels of liking. And possibly that’s why it leaves the shores of ‘analysis’ and enters the realm of ‘poetry’! In short, it has less that can be justified and…more that can only be felt.
But then, what about that girl?? Well…there are positive vibes to be felt, goodness to be wished and smiles to be shared! After all! ‘Liking’ need not be a precursor to something coming or a hint for something deeper. It, in itself, is a wholesome complete emotion, deserving its own standalone identity.
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Well! There is no need to name every emotion…and even if there is…not necessarily in interconnection with something else.
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
