“I am all yours”! Really?

In love, it is natural to be interested in the person’s past. But you can’t keep digging for details. 


Before you came in someone’s life, the person must have had his or her share of emotional connections. So, it is highly unlikely that you are the first or the only one. While you should be ‘sensitively & sensibly’ available if the person wants to talk about it, you can’t stay unduly curious about it. After all, even in the closest relationships, there is a line to be drawn – called respect.

It is important to not wish to possess a person in entirety. When someone says ‘I am all yours’, it can’t mean what it sounds. Mind is like an iceberg and we all interact with each other’s tips of those icebergs. It is every person’s prerogative to decide how much of that iceberg he or she wants to share with you.

Healthy relationships do have high ‘self-disclosure’; but it is well within a person’s right to decide the pace and extent of that self-disclosure. Don’t try to push the pace. And in any case, do remember…


…“in relationship, beyond a point, you got to drop person’s CV and trust the performance appraisal.” 🙂

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. (www.socialigence.net) He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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