Why it didn’t work out?

Our mind doesn’t deal with people…it deals with its perceptions of them.


I knew he was in love with someone and would often talk about her. And when I met her, I could see why? She was drop-dead gorgeous…possibly one of the prettiest faces I have ever seen. But you know what? I somehow felt that it would not work out…

The reasons were deeper

Well! “Everyone who is good, isn’t automatically good for you”! She was always nice to him but ever since they had been together, he seemed more restless, hunched, insecure and distracted. Her presence would not bring out the best in him.

And she was nowhere to be blamed for it! Rather it was his own mind that, while positioning the perception of her personality in his psyche, had stumbled upon some deep-laying point of reference into the darker recesses of his past and had activated some related complexes or insecurities. So, now she had become more of a trigger to ‘an algorithm’ of a downward spiral in his mind.

And when that happens…you know it will not remain hunky-dory.


As I always say…fulfillment in relationships is not a function of people’s impressions, but that of their impact on you.

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. (www.socialigence.net) He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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