Sometimes, the ‘stand you take’ helps you become who you are.
Years back, a conversation had taken place between me and one of my older relatives. She was referring to what one of my other relatives was saying about me to others. Though even today, I am far from being totally sorted; still when I look back, I think that it was one of the defining moments in my approach towards life. It went roughly like this (of course the original one was in Hindi)…
She: “Do you know he is saying bad things about you?”
I: “He must be. That’s why you are mentioning it”.
She: “But don’t you feel a need to defend yourself?”
She: “Why? Then how would we come to know your side of the story?”
I: “I know my side of the story, that’s enough. Why should everyone know it? And unless what he is saying has grave implications, I don’t find a reason to defend or clarify. After all, I can’t address everything said about me. He has all the right to tell his side of the story, and I respect his right”.
She: “Then whom should we believe?”
“That’s your right to decide, and I will respect it as well”… I said.