At times, ‘getting away’ is better than ‘getting out’.
In relationship problems, ‘dialogue is important for diagnosis’. But when dialogue becomes a debate and starts moving towards a dispute, then I firmly recommend that ‘distance can be equally effective for diagnosis’. In other words, when casual confrontations start taking magnitudes of continuous conflicts then rather than a break-up, it is good to simply take a break.
It gives an opportunity to take stock of the situation with objectivity, and to see the relationship in a new light – with lightness of a beginner. It also helps one introspect, away from the heat of someone breathing down one’s neck all the time. Most importantly, this way, one is also able to see life beyond that one relationship, and connect that piece with other pieces in the puzzle.
More often than not, after that break, people return more balanced. However, if the rut continues endlessly, then just remember…
…on any day, breaking up is better than…breaking down.