In life, everything cannot be right or wrong! Some things can be just… different.
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My first real exposure to homosexuals was in a different cultural setup. We had gone to meet an elderly gentleman, and he was waiting for who he was referring to as his ‘partner’. Initially, we read the obvious in the term, until his partner joined us. And well! What I felt in the succeeding interaction was really an education in human relationships…
Well! I am a heterosexual (that too a pretty ‘driven’ one 🙂 ), so I really don’t know how homosexuals feel. And I prefer to not to have an opinion on something that I don’t understand. Yet, in those fleeting moments, as they looked at each other, I saw something that I have only seen between two persons who are deeply connected to each other.
That ‘look’ shared by them had the elements of ‘attachment, respect and trust’ that are not seen in 90% of the normal couples I come across. Now, I don’t know what to call the ‘feeling’ they shared, and I also don’t have a judgment on whether that feeling is legitimate, ethical or even ‘normal’. But honestly, that day, what I witnessed was…‘abnormally perfect’.
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Well! What happens in the bed, or how it happens, alone can’t define ‘normalness’. It’s also what is shared by two persons between their two ‘embedding moments’ that defines how ‘normal’ their relationship is.
Am I wrong? …
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
