A Zentastic advice for the New Year!

Absence of bad habits doesn’t make you good; it is the presence of good habits that makes you good!   


I have seen people who wake up early, but don’t know how to utilize the extra hours they have earned by doing so; or people who never get late, but are seldom well-prepared; or people who don’t hurt anybody, but also can’t motivate anyone either; or people who don’t cut corners, but also can’t prioritize; or people who don’t have any addiction, but also don’t have any direction.

…and then, there are people for whom, all those sentences can be reversed.

Yes! It’s the ‘good’, and not the ‘not bad’, that decides how good you are. And don’t get me wrong! Of course, bad habits are bad; because they hurt the longevity of success and happiness. However, what’s wrong is ‘judging someone’s eligibility for success on the basis of their bad habits’.

So, to all those people who cringe every time they see a ‘morally incorrect’ or a ‘socially deviant’ person achieving success and happiness, I have a request…

Stop sulking! Just remember, you see the dark spots of moon, because of the brightness it has”. 🙂


And for those, who still didn’t get the point, here is one of my favorite Zen stories:

A Zen teacher partied with students – drinking sake (a type of alcohol) till late in the night – and then rose next morning before dawn. He got annoyed when students came late for Zazen (a type of meditation).

When students said that the sluggishness was because of the sake, the teacher snapped, “Sake is one thing, and Zazen is another! They have nothing to do with each other!”

🙂 🙂 🙂

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. (www.socialigence.net) He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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