Absence of bad habits doesn’t make you good; it is the presence of good habits that makes you good!
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I have seen people who wake up early, but don’t know how to utilize the extra hours they have earned by doing so; or people who never get late, but are seldom well-prepared; or people who don’t hurt anybody, but also can’t motivate anyone either; or people who don’t cut corners, but also can’t prioritize; or people who don’t have any addiction, but also don’t have any direction.
…and then, there are people for whom, all those sentences can be reversed.
Yes! It’s the ‘good’, and not the ‘not bad’, that decides how good you are. And don’t get me wrong! Of course, bad habits are bad; because they hurt the longevity of success and happiness. However, what’s wrong is ‘judging someone’s eligibility for success on the basis of their bad habits’.
So, to all those people who cringe every time they see a ‘morally incorrect’ or a ‘socially deviant’ person achieving success and happiness, I have a request…
“Stop sulking! Just remember, you see the dark spots of moon, because of the brightness it has”. 🙂
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And for those, who still didn’t get the point, here is one of my favorite Zen stories:
A Zen teacher partied with students – drinking sake (a type of alcohol) till late in the night – and then rose next morning before dawn. He got annoyed when students came late for Zazen (a type of meditation).
When students said that the sluggishness was because of the sake, the teacher snapped, “Sake is one thing, and Zazen is another! They have nothing to do with each other!”
🙂 🙂 🙂
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
