A love-story with a message…

They are right when they say… “You don’t see the world as it is, you see it the way you are!”                    

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The other day, I was invited to talk at IIM Indore on a topic that brought communication in connection to psychology and emotions. A gracious lady, a thorough gentleman and an enterprising girl got together to bestow that opportunity to me. After the session, one of many bright minds over there asked me “So, what is the factor that intervenes most strongly in my relating with others”? My answer was “Your perception of who you are”. Well! Normally, that answer should have left me as I left the campus. However, as I drove back, the memory that taught me that answer came to my mind in all its vividness…

In school, I used to like a girl who was way out of my league. I mean, she was very pretty and I was just a skinny geeky guy. So, it would be unfair to even say that the story ended there, because nothing ever really began…

As we all ended our schooling, after some years, our paths crossed again. And as we met a couple of times, I was shocked to know that ‘it was the other way round’. In school, she suffered from low self-esteem and actually thought pretty high of me. In fact, it turned out that she actually ‘liked’ me.

Well! That episode taught me a lot. I learnt that the ‘way people see you’ depends less on ‘who you are’ and more on ‘how they see themselves’, which is different from ‘how you see them’, because that itself depends more on ‘how you see yourself’.

Well! In other (and lesser) words, eventually, two most important things to be aware-of in life are “how you see yourself” and “how people see themselves”.

Since then, I have always tried to remain sorted about ‘how I see myself’ and observant about ‘how people see themselves’. And what better!! This trait made me pretty good at my job – training. As it is a lot about helping people with their ‘self-image’ and ‘identity’.

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Wow! They are also right when they say… “It all adds up”! :-)

About Sandeep Atre

Sandeep Atre, PhD: Dr. Sandeep Atre is the Founder-Director of Socialigence – an organization that specializes in the development of ‘Social Intelligence’ through its focused online-courses and customized workshops on ‘observing nonverbal behavior and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management’. (www.socialigence.net) He is also one of the Founder-Directors of CH EdgeMakers - a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ group of Central India. In his career of close to one and a half decade, he has trained thousands of students, and professionals of more than fifty organizations and institutions. He has authored two books “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence” and has also been a noted blogger for last many years. He has also featured at various prestigious platforms as a ‘Management Speaker’ and ‘Motivational Orator’ and has also served on various advisory and editorial boards. He has earned repute for his value-additive innovation and holistic methodology in his domain.
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