World manipulates you for what you hide…
The other day, in a session, this quote quoted itself via me in a particular context. And as I was driving back, I rummaged into my first tryst with its content…
I was in my initial teens when I and one of my classmates went to a city called Kamthi, as a part of the drama-team representing our school (we had no dialogues and only expressions, after all what else can you expect when your roles are that of fellow passengers in the train-compartment in which the protagonist travels…). But both of us were thrilled for the reasons best untold…
There, one day, both of us were talking and incidentally used a few swearwords as a part of proving it to ourselves that we were grownups (I am not at all proud of it, but then…boys will be boys!)…Exactly then, one of our senior boys entered the room and overheard those golden words…
That moment onwards it became our ‘Big secret…to be kept’ for the whole trip. Everywhere we would go, whatever we would do, that guy would look at us with the ‘Shall-I-tell- eye!’… (…that, he was a friend to the ‘senior-girl we both had a crush on’ didn’t help our cause either…”now you also know why we were thrilled at the outset…”)
The point that he didn’t tell anyone cannot change the fact that we both came back feeling the strangest we had ever felt till then…realizing that Yes! The world does manipulate you for what you hide!
…Let’s accept that we are ‘social animals’…so we can’t bare-it-all (sadly, the precondition of living in a society)… The animal aspect of ours (which I actually consider the purest and the most natural form of being) will always have its naked truths – the skeletons, and our social aspect will always build the closet around them.
Well!…I still have many skeletons in my closet…And I am sure we all have…many skeletons (and even many closets)…but let’s make sure that each skeleton is worth the space that it takes in the closet…
After all! Let’s not forget that the closet itself also takes a space in our living room…leaving even lesser room for us to live…!
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
