Your happiness is your own responsibility…!
I still wore half-pants when I accompanied my uncle to a relative’s demise…! There, some of his close ones cried so uncontrollably that in my innocence I got convinced that they would not survive…
Well! …all of them lived on, recovered, became normal and…forgot him almost completely.
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When I shared this with one of my wiser cousins, she simply said “That’s Life”! That was my first tryst with this beautiful truth that…‘No one is indispensable”!
Now, there is a choice – we can either get disillusioned & cynical about this or can be appreciative of God’s aesthetic sense for creating life with such an elegant flow! Latter is better because although it deprives us of our imagined-importance to everyone around us, it also relieves us of the pressure born out of such importance!
So…we conclude that we are not indispensable in anyone’s life! Isn’t it? …………Wrong!
We might be replaceable in everyone’s life but once-gone we cannot come back in our own life. Yes! We have come in our life just for once…the first and last time! So, it’s important (& preferable) to be self-centric (not self-centered) in life and derive a lot of happiness from within!
But then what about relationships? Well! Relationships are about shared happiness…about interdependence. And only an independent person can be interdependent. So, you can’t depend on others to build an ecosystem for you to be happy! You got to be a source of happiness for being a resource for happiness!
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So next time when people sing Happy-Birthday to you…Promise on the day that you’ll actually make this birth Happy for you!
After all…You aren’t replaceable in your own life.
PS: At times life comes too harsh on us to sound wise! Except that, what’s above…prevails!
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
