“Love and care is not a prerogative of the ‘named relationships’…they can come from the people who neither share your surname nor are on your fb friend-list or in favorites of your phonebook.”
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About a year ago, I was in basement of a house in another country thousands of Kilometers away from home, when suddenly, I hurt myself so badly that I couldn’t even move. I spent the whole day on a couch in horrible pain. Although my hosts were supportive but as the evening got darker, I started craving for a more caring presence around.
And then appeared on the door, one of my teammates! He had opted to come all the way from another corner of the city to be with me for the night. Well! For the whole evening and the following night till the next morning, he slept on the floor of the basement beside my bed, attending to my smallest of needs with immense care and warmth. And I slept like a baby… unconcerned with even my own pain.
As I woke up early in the morning…lying on the bed, I couldn’t help but think that strange are the ways of the world! There have been times when even my ‘so called’ closest people were indifferent to my pain, and here was someone, who I knew for just a few days,…so tuned into how I am feeling, and so wholly ‘there’ for me.
Well! Affection is one of God’s most special gems. It cannot be summoned from people tagged to you as ‘your own’, nor can it be ensured by carefully crafting a web of relationships around you. It comes to you in most unlikely situations through the special souls handpicked by God himself…
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That morning, as I was getting ready for the day, I couldn’t help but hum the evergreen words from movie ‘Anand’…“Kahin to ye dil kabhi mil nahin paate…kahin pe nikal aayein janmon ke naate!”
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
