“Only two such persons can be happy in a relationship…who are happy even without it!”
I staunchly agree with the above saying…That’s why I felt like cringing when he said…“I look so unhappy because I want to make her realize that it’s because of her that I am so unhappy!” My first reaction was “But that will only repel her further away from you…! And in any case, what are you achieving out of it”? This time, I couldn’t stop cringing because he said…“It makes me feel better!”…
Well! The biggest symptom of a pseudo-relationship is when “You want the person to be happy only with you…and if he is happy without you then you start feeling that he doesn’t love you anymore!”
Although a far-fetched analogy…but one thing seems common between Relationships and MBA! Both are either attracting wrong kind of people, or for wrong reasons…
By definition, a manager is someone who is more interested in other’s success; but ironically the domain of management is attracting a lot of those who are primarily interested in their own ambitions! Similarly in one word, relationships were meant for ‘Happiness’ but increasingly people are entering them for all the wrong reasons… to revive self-esteem, impress others, dispel loneliness or just some fun…!
As a result, what was meant to be a synergistic bliss ends up being an ugly battle for sadistic-pleasures; to be derived at the cost of each other’s happiness.
Well…those who enter relationships (and MBA 🙂) should remember that the most characteristically unique thing about happiness (and success) is…
‘You can’t get it…unless you Give it!’
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
