“Why do people tend to wear their struggles like medals?”…came to my mind as I overheard those two men attempting to outdo each other in showing off how much they have suffered in their lives!
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Well! I don’t understand why people compare their sufferings? After all, pain is such an individual concept…so personal in nature that it can never be measured for two persons on one common continuum; and then benchmarked or put side by side.
It comes in all shapes and sizes…
I have seen people suffering loss of their parents, and then have also seen the ones whose parents are causing them huge emotional-trauma. I have seen people missing that they never had siblings and also the ones who wished they actually never had one.
I have seen people suffering because they couldn’t get the ones they loved, and also the ones who got them but are now suffering equally in their very hands. Well! There are people suffering due to lack of friends and then ones who are suffering because of them.
I have seen successful people contemplating a voluntary-end as intensely as the ones who never found their footing. The fact is…You could drive a sedan through the driveway of a swanky mansion into the Oberois…and still be as unhappy as the one on the footpath!
It is all…because ‘pain’ is so ‘irrationally private’ that you just cannot understand, estimate or juxtapose.
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People often ask me why I don’t talk much about my suffering and pain?
Well! I know pretty well that…Those who have caused it would never accept…Those, for whose sake I have borne it, would never acknowledge…and…Those, who I will share it with, would say “Arre! Ye to kuchh nahin hai! Mere saath to….”
So, rather than getting into this game, I prefer to say “Nahin! Main Changa hoon Ji!”
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
