Real relationships are ‘low-maintenance’ ones. There is no pressure to prove, preserve or pamper! Whenever you stretch your hand…you find theirs!
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Strange are the matters of mind…One day, it moves mountains, and on another, succumbs to stones! On one such restless day when I was hopelessly clueless about how to handle the turmoil inside, I had one of the most fulfilling conversations I’ve ever had…
Strangely I can’t recall any words! In all, we shared more silences than syllables…And just when I was about to hang up, came the words “Well! Just take care that…If it’s a decision then take it looking at the long-term, and if it’s a difficulty then stay in your senses & solve it stepwise”!
I said “What if it is neither…?”
I could hear a smile preceding the words…“Then just hang in there, it shall pass…”!
I just said ‘Hmmm’! …and hung up!
Surprisingly! It felt a lot better, as if the tides inside had made peace with the shore! And it wasn’t actually the advice, but something else! It was the shared-silence before it, when you are allowed a space to simply ‘be’! Those few moments when someone isn’t there and…still is!
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Well! At the heart of it, all human relations are about the same things…caring through words, supporting through actions… and at times… just ‘being there’, without a temptation to judge or hurry to conclude!
We just need to figure out…when to choose which one!
PS: I’ve changed some words from original conversations as they were in Hindi…Well! No matter how western our sensibilities are, our sensitivities will still be eastern…
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
