In a session, while discussing a concept, context of recent news came up…and I quoted that the protagonist had said that a girl took advantage of him for months…
To my utter shock…I realized that the girls were giggling…!
Well…If the victim would have been the girl, and boys in the class would have giggled…then it would have been called… cruelly insensitive!
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Strange is the notion of equality…
If a girl refuses to marry the guy she was dating then it is called ‘constraints’ and if the boy does it then it is called ‘exploitation’; and why is it so that in such news, while girl’s name is changed for maintaining her modesty, the boy’s real name is published along with his father’s name? Why, when a relationship ends then the girl walks away with sympathy and the boy is left with disdain…!
Well! It’s high-time the society should stop taking men’s sensitivity for granted…? They are equally human, and deserve the same respect for their sanctity! They aren’t just some ‘desperates’, throwing around themselves between the sheets on any invitation…They also value their bodies and their sharing of intimacy can also be born out of vulnerability and trust in the person they love…
Well…they might not tell you but they also feel a connection way beyond physicality…!
They also go through the pangs of insecurity & guilt and feel the need for reassurance! They also find it difficult to overcome heartbreaks and forget those moments…They aren’t just the carefree, revengeful or visibly-hopeless lovers movies have presented them as; they also walk away let-down, grieve subtly and lose their confidence and innocence!
Just because they don’t wear their hearts on their sleeves…You can’t assume they don’t have one!
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Well! When a heart breaks, you may choose to ignore…
but then…it surely doesn’t deserve a giggle either!
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
