One of my favorite sayings is “It is all a matter of ‘mind over matter’. So, if you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter!”
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To see a man way past his youth being finicky about things is not a rare sight. So, I wasn’t really surprised to see him getting worked up as he tried to get everything right about the study-table he had ordered to be made. He had already visited the vendor thrice and had given follow-up calls numerous times. Well! I could see that that wooden thing did matter a lot to him.
And then, after all the alterations and altercations, it finally arrived. My first glance at it and then at him convinced me that the thing was pretty far from what he had originally envisioned. And my opinion got confirmed as he slipped into his room with a resigned look on the face.
As I woke up the next morning, I saw what I would surely not have imagined the night before. He was merrily working, with that table being pretty much a part of his writing apparatus. I could not really believe the transformation, so I asked him how he had overcome the disappointment overnight.
Well! With a smile, he asked me to follow him to the store room. As we rummaged through the stuff lying all over the place, he pointed towards a debilitated classy chair with all sorts of boxes and papers on it. As I looked at him with questioning eyes, he said “This belonged to my father. And as long as he was there, he cared for it so much that none of us ever got to sit on it”. Then he looked at me with a sigh and said “You know, I tried a lot to conserve it but somehow eventually it found its way to this place”.
I couldn’t say anything, and as we walked back to the study-room and stopped near ‘the table’, he kept his hands on it, looked at me, and said…“You know what! Eventually, this all will find its way to that place.”…
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I couldn’t help but smile at profundity of what I had heard, but after a few seconds, I asked “But then, if you knew this piece of wisdom, then why were you so finicky about it as it was getting made?”
He chuckled and said “Well! This wisdom is not for stopping me from thinking about it…it is for stopping me from keeping thinking about it”.
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
