You never live a relationship that you began with!
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The other day someone asked “Is it wise to get into a relationship that has no future?”
Huh! A tricky one!
Well! We build relationships to create and restore happiness. So, a relationship lasts as long as the periods of losses are well distributed along the timeline, and are regularly punctuated by periods of gains. Yes! It should overall turn out to be a win-win proposition, to stay relevant.
Wait a minute! Here, I am not talking about ‘relationship’ – the tag, but the organic phenomenon that breathes, pulsates and throbs. Well! This differentiation is necessary as the tag is kept and maintained irrespective of the stuff inside, for all the reasons for which we are tagged as ‘social animals’.
So, coming back, it is the ‘mutual benefit and fulfillment’ (actual or perceived) that is a precondition to lasting relationships. Hence, as long as two persons involved in a relationship have similar expectations from the relationship (‘identical’ can they never be), it works just about fine.
But here comes the ‘twist’! It is one thing to have similar expectations and another to have similar understanding of the stakes involved and the consequences that come with the choice they are making. And add to it the fact that ‘people are not events, they are processes’ and…Whoa! That’s where it all tends to unravel.
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So, why only ‘lack of future’, any relationship can prevail against any odds. The only requisite is two persons’ ability to ‘set it straight, stay tuned in, and own it up’.
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
