I strongly believe that…“Idealism is the first step to hypocrisy”!
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A lot of people loved my last post. However, some, in spite of loving it, found it slightly less morally-correct. And one of them asked me to write something on my basic approach towards my work – which in his words is… ‘mentoring people’. So here is a piece on it…
I find most people living on ‘overdose of sentiments’. In turn, I like to call myself an existentialist. I believe in seeing things the way they are and not the way I wish them to be. And it is even more important to do so if you want to help someone change things for better; because ‘acceptance is the first step to change’.
So I don’t see people as ‘good or bad’ but as ‘good and bad’. And as far as their questions are concerned, I believe that a mentor’s job is not to answer all the questions, but to take the person to a level of understanding where some questions simply dissolve.
Well! A mentor takes your questions away, and leaves in you a ‘quest’ – for permanent solutions. Yes! I don’t believe in giving temporary solutions to permanent problems but to give permanent solutions to temporary problems, because when you find a temporary solution then more often than not you end up making the problem permanent.
In other words…“I don’t try to solve the problems; I try to sort the person”…
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…And I do it not for some lofty aim to serve humanity, but to sort my own self bit by bit – possibly the most ambitious job a man can undertake. 🙂
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
